From Grieflessons to Lifelessons.


Bob and I, early 1990’s

Matt asked us to tell him about the origins of our blog name, so here goes:

The original name of my blog was “Grieflessons.”  Why Grieflessons?

When my husband Bob and I bought a house in Mexico in 2001, little did we know I would be moving into it without him. We had our moving sale in the states and packed up our van, but three days before we were due to begin our journey down to our new home, we discovered he had pancreatic cancer. He lived for three weeks. That is how, 2 months later, I came to be lying alone on an air mattress in an empty house in a country where I knew neither a soul nor the language.

I wrote a book based on my first 8 years after his death and originally, I thought this blog would be about grief–how it expresses itself, how I responded to it and how I came to realize that it is a powerful agent for growth and change.  Very quickly, however,  the scope of what the blog encompasses grew beyond my initial purposes. Rather than a blog to help people deal with death, it seems to have become a blog to enable myself and others to deal with life.

A big part of this change was initially due to my participation in National Poetry Writing Month, wherein I published a poem a day for a month.  That led to postings about my life in general, which is why I  changed the name of my blog to “Lifelessons.” I have stated before, but I’ll say again that it is mainly myself that I am teaching through my posts. There is a part of me I never communicate with unless I’m writing, and that is a big motivation keeping me going.

After NaPoWriMo in 2013, I decided I wanted to continue to write and post every day and I have done so with  only one exception (when I spilled a Coke on my computer and was without internet access for a day or two) since April 1 of 2014. Since then I have also begun daily postings to several photo prompts as well and I’m now in search of a support group for addictive bloggers!  (That is mainly a joke.)

Soon I also hope to add a section that shows my sculpture, retablos and other art work.  Life changes and changes.  So will this blog.

 

Here’s Matt’s link in case you want to play along:
https://normalhappenings.com/2018/09/28/origin-story-daily-inkling/

27 thoughts on “From Grieflessons to Lifelessons.

    1. lifelessons Post author

      Ha.. they’ve been in the works for about 3 years now.. do you think it is likely they’ll come to fruition? I do have photos of my artwork sprinkled throughout the blog, however. In the meantime, I will be thinking about it occasionally!

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      1. lifelessons Post author

        I really have been dedicated to it in a manner I never would have guessed. 4734 blog postings in 5 years. The thing I like about blogging is that I have a short-term obligation every day. It is my first priority, after feeding the troops, and sometimes I even forget them until they make themselves known. (Troops are four cats and two dogs..and sometimes my own growling stomach.)

        Your statement caused me to check out some stats. In 2012, I had 67 views and made only 2 posts; in 2013, I had 3,616 views with 67 posts; In 2014, it was the first year I decided to blog every day and I had 18,893 views and 368 posts; 2015, 71,669 views and 1,075 posts, 2016, 236,283 views with 1,200 posts; 2017, 146,791 views for 1,094 posts and so far this year, with three months to go, 125,997 views and 938 posts. It is amazing to look at the stats from a yearly perspective. These views were not easily won but just sort of crept up as I got fixated on blogging. And, the good thing about blogging is it also forces you out into nature and the world so you have something to blog about! Cart before the horse?

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    1. lifelessons Post author

      Now that is tragedy. I didn’t marry until I was 39. When friends and family were marrying and having their children, I was traveling and living a single life. By the time I got married, they were divorced or divorcing and beginning to travel and I had married a man with 8 children. Sometimes I think I lived my life backwards from most I know.

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  1. angloswiss

    Which shows how little we really know about each other. A lady living in Mexico, wow. I was always impressed by your poems and your blog, a place I return to almost every day. I think we are about the same age, two golden not so oldies, enjoying the life of bloggers.

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    1. lifelessons Post author

      You didn’t ever know I lived in Mexico? Not surprising. I wrote for people for years thinking they were a man and they turned out to be a woman..and vice versa. Interesting how communicating en absentia alters what we once would have thought was important: i.e. sex, size, age, looks. It’s just the words here. And the heart. I’ve lived in Mexico for 17 years. We are both expats.

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      1. angloswiss

        I knew that you live in Mexico although I did not know the story behind it. And wow was the expression that you actually did it. I also landed in a country, where I thought I could speak the language, but soon discovered that the Swiss speak german dialects and many. However, we get used to it I suppose. I have now been an expat for 50 years, sort of unintentionally. Mr. Swiss was the extra after 2 years, but I would never return to my life in England.

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    1. lifelessons Post author

      The stats were incidental. It wasn’t my purpose to demonstrate how I’d pushed for stats. It just amazed me to see the contrasts. Basically, I do the prompts because they are fun to do and because in some cases, I like the prompter and want to support them. I think you do nearly as many prompts a day as I do..

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