A little weep, a little sigh,
a little teardrop in each eye.
Grandma Jane and her sister Sue,
one wanted one hole, the other, two
punched into their can of milk.
(All their squabbles were of this ilk.)
The rest, of course, is family fable.
They sat, chins trembling, at the table.
When my dad entered, we’ve all been told,
their milk-less coffee had grown cold.
For the W3 Challenge. this is the prompt: Two voices. Two perspectives. Tension lingers in the air. Can they find common ground? Will the conversation spark understanding or fracture further? You decide.Write a poem—any form, or none at all—that captures the heart of a difficult conversation.
My grandmother and her sister had a lifetime of such “differences.” It might have begun due to the events revealed to me by my Aunt Stella, my grandmother’s daughter. Years after the deaths of both my grandmother and her sister, I had asked my dad’s sister why there seemed to be so much antagonism between my grandmother and her sister, whom we called “Aunt Susie,” even though she was really our great aunt. My Aunt Stella, a good church lady, revealed to me then what she thought was the crux of their antagonism. My grandmother had, before my grandfather, been married to a different man whom she never ever mentioned to us, although her sister Margaret had mentioned him on occasion to us as *”That Black Devil!” Grandma had one daughter with that husband, my Aunt Margie, but then divorced him and married my grandfather and had two more children, my father and my Aunt Stella, who told me the following tale. It seems as though Aunt Susie once visited my grandmother and “The Black Devil” in their tiny one-bedroom house. When bedtime came, there was only one choice…one bed..and so of course they all three shared it. “But, my aunt said, unfortunately, my grandmother made the mistake of putting her husband in the middle and during the night, she woke up and found he and her sister were, well, um…they were having sexual intercourse!” That was perhaps the only time in her life my Aunt Stella ever said those words and the fact that she told me was amazing. No one else in my family had ever heard this story but we had surely all wondered why in that time when divorce was unheard of, my grandmother had chosen to divorce “That Black Devil.” Years later, when I chose to go to a family reunion of my Aunt Margie’s family, all descendants of that “Black Devil,” (although I don’t think any of them ever met him since my Aunt Margie was raised by my grandmother and her second husband who had moved the family from Iowa to South Dakota) none of them had never heard the story, either. It certainly would explain, however, the lifetime of nit-picky bickering between my grandmother and her sister.
* In calling my grandma’s first husband, “That Black Devil,” my Aunt Margaret was describing his soul as black, not his skin.


That was shocking for that time. Fascinating story. I would have styed mad, too!
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My sister corrected a part of the story so I’ve changed it a bit. I guess it was my great aunt.. my grandmother’s other sister who called him “That Black Devil.” My grandmother never mentioned him again!
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A very shocking story, especially for those times. No wonder they were at loggerheads
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I was 36 when my very religious aunt told me another story over the phone. We hadn’t seen each other for many years. I had moved to California and she was in Idaho, but I had started calling her on the phone and she told me another very personal secret that she said she was telling me just because she knew from other conversations we’d had over the years that I would believe her and wouldn’t think she was crazy. She said that she had started seeing her dead husband, who had started appearing in the room with her. Then she died just a short time later.
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Oh that’s sad. Maybe she had premonition of her own death. I feel sad for her
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I’m glad we got to talk and I think her husband was just inviting her to join him which must have been comforting for her.
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Very true. We really can’t judge what someone is experiencing is really true or not. I’m glad you were there to listen to her.
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Only a monster would demand a single hole punched in the top of the can of condensed milk! Civilized folk worldwide know it requires TWO holes to smooth the flow!!
(Also, I love this poem.)
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Well you are on the right side then. It was Aunt Suzie who must have demanded one as my grandma always poked two.
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Judy, your poem beautifully captures the tension and hidden history between your grandmother and Aunt Susie. The personal depth and quiet revelation make it feel raw and deeply empathetic to me. It’s a powerful piece.
~David
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Thanks, David. Strong Dutch women in my father’s family.
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I can see how the backstory’s explanation might put a bit of a rift in a relationship- A tale told with humor- but in some situations if you don’t laugh…..
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Great poem, Judy! The cheese that came after was even better! I’m surprise your grandmother ever spoke to her sister again.
Yvette M Calleiro 🙂
http://yvettemcalleiro.blogspot.com
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Well, they didn’t speak too amicably.
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whoa! Too bad your grandmother didn’t make him sleep on the floor. But, on the other hand, she saw his true nature early on. Good riddance!
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And I never would have been born if they’d stayed married!
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Wow, what a shocker. I can understand the antagonism.
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Family dynamics are often explained when secrets are revealed!! I can’t say there wasn’t a basis for the squabbles!
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hi, Judy❣️
I just wanna let you know that this week’s W3, hosted for the very first time by the wonderful Ooko Tonny, is now live:
Enjoy 😃
Much love,
David
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hi, Judy 🙃
Just wanna let you know that this week’s W3, hosted by our beloved Carol Anne is now live:
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Enjoy❣️
Much love,
David
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