Dia de Los Muertos, 2014

Dia de los Muertos, 2014

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This is this year’s minimalist altar for my departed: husband Bob, Mother Pat and Father Ben. I wasn’t going to do one. Then Yolanda (my housekeeper) told me about a friend who didn’t  make a Dia de los Muertos altar for her mother who had recently died. This friend then went to see the elaborate offerings of her brothers and sisters, so she brought a rather poor specimen of a pumpkin and told them they could put that on her mother’s grave. That night she had a dream of walking through the graveyard. Every other grave was elaborately decorated with flowers and sweetly-scented candles and favorite foods of the departed: water, whiskey, tequila. When she got to her mother’s grave, there was no light and there were no offerings—only the one poor pumpkin. As she walked by, people shook their heads, and she left in shame. When she woke up, she went to her mother’s grave and took her fresh water, a candle, sweets, and all of the things her mother loved.

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It worked.  I assembled an altar. Yolanda looked at it and told another story about how the water and candle help to create a breeze that brings the scent of the favorite foods to the departed. I quickly added a candle and a small glass of water with an ice cube—as Bob did hate a lukewarm Coke! When the ice cube melted, I added a small red heart to take its place. If you look closely, you can see it in the bottom of the glass.

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It was my mother’s tradition to tuck a small box of Russell Stover candy into each of our Xmas stockings. One Xmas, we opened them to find only wrappers in each one. Over the course of the weeks before Xmas, our mother had opened each one, unable to resist eating the chocolates. So precedent decreed that I eat hers. You’ll see the empty papers littering the space around the box. (Yolanda, ever-respectful of tradition, helped by eating one piece.)

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Although my father raised black Angus and Hereford cattle, this is Mexico, after all, so I think he’d forgive the long horns. A donut and a 10 peso piece complete his offerings. Last year I put a small glass of milk with cornbread crushed in it—his favorite cocktail. But this year the ants have taken over our part of Mexico, so I didn’t dare.

9 thoughts on “Dia de Los Muertos, 2014

    1. lifelessons Post author

      Thanks, John. This is by far my least elaborate altar but does the job with a whole lot less fuss. Instead, I spent the time getting sugar skulls and supplies ready to decorate today at a local girls’ orphanage. I’ll publish pictures of their efforts tomorrow. Today is the day to celebrate infants and children who have died. Tomorrow is the day for adults. Halloween/Dia de los Muertos goes on for 3 days here…proper time to placate and expunge spirits and to get on with life. Judy

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  1. lizbert1

    I really like the idea that you don’t just think about your loved ones on this day but you also create an alter with their favourite things on. I guess its a way of bringing them close again and although its sad to know they’ve gone, happy memories always make them live on with us. Great post, thank you.

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    1. lifelessons Post author

      But did you eat a box of Russell Stover for her? I certainly wish she’d liked a better brand of chocolates—perhaps See’s? I took a bite out of three and threw them all away..Gave Yolanda the fourth–a sort of Dia de los Muertos communion!!!

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