Unwrapped Packages

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Unwrapped Packages

It is the difference between that present handed to you
by a person who says, “It’s only a tie,”
and a package under the tree
squeezed and prodded at—perhaps a corner loosened
or a hole poked in through supposed accidental handling,
pondered like a good detective show.

Who wants these mysteries revealed before their time?
What value in the present whose contents you already know for sure?
The magic of Christmas for some is that faith that the girl,
untouched by human lover, gave birth—and it is that sort of faith
that “saved” the world. If we knew the whole truth of that story
would all it prompted fall into the hole covered all these years by mystery?
The whole world seems to be standing more on what we don’t know
than on what we absolutely know empirically—what we can prove.

And so I look at the picture of my young mother
in her cotton housedress and saddle shoes
holding her baby in front of her in her stroller,
whole contraption, child and carrier,
a foot or two above the ground,
and there is mystery in the reveal.
I do not hear what transpired to cause this pose.
I do not know if my father caught her carrying me
from the porch to sidewalk and said,
“Here, Tootie, turn around,” and snapped the picture,
or whether my older sister planned the pose.
Or whether some movie star was snapped in a similar scene
and my mother and sister, like two conspiring fans,
planned the shot to steal the glamor formerly reserved
for “Photoplay” or “Look” or “Life.”

There would be no reel-to-reel
in any normal person’s life for years.
No movie camera to tell me exactly what my mother was like
or my sister or me before my memory took hold and even then,
my mind’s remembrance
more like reflections in a lake that color and change
depending on the clouds or rain,
distorting the light like moods.
My Aunt Peggy’s house,
always remembered as feeling like
the color chartreuse,
and I will never know why.
That smell of a friend’s house that became associated
with her memory more than any concrete proof of reel-to-reel
or spinning film of movie camera.

I do not know my mother’s voice at thirty.
I did not witness myself since birth
by either sound or sight.
There is a different mystery
to a past caught
in boxes of Kodacolor prints
curling and yellowing in a closet
than one documented like a science experiment
with every event taped and filmed.

Where does the mystery of you reside when you see yourself
so clearly, as others have seen you all along?
What does it leave for you to try to discover?
No tapes.
No film.
No Internet.
No Skype.
No YouTube.
No home movies.
All of our pasts were once wrapped up forever.
Only our fingers poking in the edges.
Only our voices asking,
“What was it like the day when I was born?”
What do you remember about the day when. . . .?

The Prompt: Can’t Stand Me—What do you find more unbearable: watching a video of yourself, or listening to a recording of your voice? Why?

10 thoughts on “Unwrapped Packages

  1. joatmon14

    This is great, and so true. Thank goodness we had story tellers and people to write down memories or share them sitting around the family room before the internet came along! Great post


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  6. Ann O'Neal Garcia

    I totally love this. Every single time you write about your Mom (Tootie!) I’m fascinated, and the mystery of a person is not revealed, is it, by photos, home movies, diaries…no matter what one leaves behind, it is not the divine mystery of the person. We try to understand but there’s a complexity we’ll never “get”, not even about ourselves with all our clues laid out like Solitaire cards on the dining room table.


  7. Ann O'Neal Garcia

    I also love the photo of the Xmas tree and wonder if that’s an old one taken in Laramie? I used to so enjoy going to Patti’s house and seeing the most elaborate Xmas trees I’d ever seen…the above photo reminded me of her. Her house. Her parties.


  8. Patti

    No, Ann, this was our Mother’s tree . She loved Christmas and always put her tree up as soon as possible–in her later years, at Halloween! Thanks for the memory; my AZ tree is only 4′ tall.


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