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About lifelessons

My blog, which started out to be about overcoming grief, quickly grew into a blog about celebrating life. I post daily: poems, photographs, essays or stories. I've lived in countries all around the globe but have finally come to rest in Mexico, where I've lived since 2001. My books may be found on Amazon in Kindle and print format, my art in local Ajijic galleries. Hope to see you at my blog.

The Numbers Game #103. Please Play Along! Dec 15, 2025

Welcome to “The Numbers Game #103”. Today’s number is 225 (posted by Forgottenman for Judy). To play along, go to your photos file folder and type that number into the search bar. Then post a selection of the photos you find that include that number and post a link to your blog in my Numbers Game blog of the day. If instead of numbers, you have changed the identifiers of all your photos into words, pick a word or words to use instead, and show us a variety of photos that contain that word in the titleThis prompt will repeat each Monday with a new number. If you want to play along, please put a link to your blog in comments below. Here are my contributions to the album.

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Lake Bacalar, brother and sister enjoying the water.

For JohnBo’s Cellpic Sunday.

“Hearts” For The Sunday Whirl 375

Hearts

Hearts on hooks sweep back and forth
from east to west to south to north,
hung on chains where they are caught,
dizzy from what fate has wrought.
While other shocked hearts steam and swell,
 bound tight to sticks in their own hell.
Whether held by chain or stock,
hearts the world over feel the shock
while you, I hope, possess a heart
that’s been free from the very start.

For The Sunday Whirl 735 the prompts are: hook sway hearts strip chain dizzy sweep you stick swell steam shock

“The Usual Stuff” for SOCS

The Usual Stuff

I’ve had enough
of the usual stuff––
wars, tsunamis
murdered mommies
global warming
cancers forming
mad religions and heretics
engineering our genetics
drug cartels
emptying wells
mounting debt
nuclear threat

I hate to say it
but every day it
is getting worse
this global curse
Presidents who line their pockets,
turning food stamps into rockets
and human capers
in all the papers
so all in all
it’s an easy call
I find less friction
in reading fiction!

The SOCS prompt is “Usual.”

More Friday Fibs

Ava Gardner

1. What is a palava? She had quite a few.  Howard Hughes, Frank Sinatra, Ernest Hemingway, Mickey Rooney and Artie Shaw were some of the more famous ones. 
2. What is a pavlova? Dad’s fifth wife.
3. What is meant by purge? The irrepressible need  to urinate.
4. What is meant by purse? The poet Shelley’s first name. His second name was Bysshe.
5. What is a crash? The remains of a psychic after cremation.
6. What is a creche? Mr. Gueverra’s birthplace.
7. What is a symbol? Not exactly the seed pod of  cotton, but very close to it.
8. What is a cymbal? Not exactly a sphere, but very close to it.
9. What is lichen? Midway between a hatin’ and a lovin’.
10. What is a lychee? Guevera, when he is sheltered from the wind.

Here are this week’s Fibbing Friday questions. The theme this week is Say What?
Thanks to Forgottenman for not only remembering to remind me about Fibbing Friday, but for setting it up for me to answer. Now that is a friend!

Buenavista and Bacalar, Dec. 10 & 11, 2025

Celebration for The Virgin of Guadalupe has begun and will go on all night and all day tomorrow. It started with a party next door…We also passed processions all the way back from Bacalar to Buenavista.

Here is a video of two dancers at the celebration next door;

More about the “Dismal Swamp.”

Photo of Drummond Lake  (in The Dismal Swamp) from Wikipedia

Want to know more about the “Yellow Fly of the Dismal Swamp”and the swamp itself? Then read this Time article about it below: If you haven’t seen it yet, see my original post o “The Yellow Fly of the Dismal Swamp” HERE.

Virginia: Swamps & Split Levels

5 minute read
TIME

Colonel William E. Byrd, the colonial ancestor of Virginia’s Senator Harry F. Byrd, named the place the Great Dismal Swamp. After trekking through the muck and mire with a band of hardy surveyors, Byrd emerged bug-bitten almost to death (the Dismal Swamp’s yellow fly, they still say, will politely lift a man’s hat from his head so as to get a better bite at his ears). The swamp, straddling the Virginia-North Carolina border, just across the James River Bay from Norfolk, was nothing better than a “filthy bogg,” he wrote. Even birds would not fly over “this horrible desart for fear of the noisome exhalations that rise from this vast body of dirt and nastiness.”

After Byrd came George Washington, who saw a chance to make a buck out of the bogs. Washington bought up a chunk of the swamp, organized a company called “Adventurers for Draining the Great Dismal Swamp,” put slaves to work building a canal, which is still in use. It was profitless. Washington finally sold the land to Lighthorse Harry Lee for $20,000, but when Lee could not meet the payments, the property reverted to Washington and was sold with Washington’s estate in 1828 for $12,000.

Where the Father of Our Country had failed, who would take a financial chance? Previews, Inc., that’s who. Previews, Inc. is a real estate firm that, with associated companies, has purchased about 160,000 acres of Dismal Swampland, is turning some of it into farm land, hopes to sell more to housing developers for Norfolk’s spreading population.

Creeping Splits. Previews, Inc.’s effort has conservationists, swamp lovers, hunters and bird watchers so mad they could swat a lepidoptera. They are lyric in their descriptions of the Great Dismal Swamp as a primeval forest of peat bog, cypress and juniper trees, of diaphanous curtains of Spanish moss, of copperhead and rattlesnake, bear, deer and mink, and of quicksand. The swamp once covered 1,500 sq. mi. But modern civilization’s bulldozers have cut it down to some 600 sq. mi. Now even to the Great Dismal Swamp comes the forward tread of split-levelism.

Well, it does seem a pity. The Great Dismal Swamp story has a shuddery, compelling quality. Thomas Moore, after seeing the swamp’s saucer-shaped Lake Drummond, wrote a ballad about a young man who went mad over the death of his beloved:

They made her a grave too cold and damp

For a soul so warm and true:

And she’s gone to the Lake of the Dismal Swamp,

Where all night long, by a firefly lamp, She paddles her white canoe.

Medicine Chest. On the fringes of the swamp live veteran trappers and guides who can recite the ballad without missing a beat, and who know every legend about the dark mysteryland. The swamp water is perfectly potable and is famed for its long-staying qualities of freshness, but it looks as if it had been pumped from an outhouse. For years, the swamp’s vegetation was supposed to be an unequaled medicine chest. The pale blue hepatica, with leaves shaped like the lobes of the liver, was good for any liver disorder. Virginia Bluebell cured chest ailments. The common yellow yarrow was standard treatment for toothache.

Most magical and powerful of all was the wild flower known as St. Johnswort. Gathered on June 24 (St. John’s Day), it was prominently displayed to frighten away witches, and the seventh son of a seventh son could accurately divine all kinds of secrets from it..

Peppers & Buttons. The Great Dismal Swamp teems with deer, great blue heron, wildcat, mink, raccoon, muskrat, quail, rabbit. One naturalist listed 52 different kinds of birds he found there. In the lake, the perch, pike and sun.isn are lamed for their tastiness. Most guides—all of whom, of course, go by the name of “Cap’n”—can lead the hunter to bear without any trouble. One old swamp character, in fact, insists that he can talk to bears in “Bear Latin.”

Such is the lure and the magic and the profound beauty of the wilderness that the conservationists cannot understand why civilization insists on intruding. Among these is Frederic Heutte, Norfolk’s superintendent of parks and forestry, and director of the city’s Botanical Gardens. He would like to see U.S. Route 17, which runs along the swamp border, turned into a floral paradise. For Heutte has discovered a native stand of gordonia lasianthus, “one of our most prized ornamentals. Together with clethra alnifolia. commonly known as the sweet pepper-bush, and the buttonbush, crape myrtle, oleanders and altheas, the highway would be transformed into one of the most beautiful highways in America.” It would also help save what is left of the Great Dismal Swamp. This week the Department of the Interior began a survey to discover how much of the swamp might reasonably be saved for future generations, who may want to see for themselves the place where the madman and his damsel

Are seen at the hour of midnight damp

To cross the Lake by a firefly lamp,

And paddle their white canoe!

 

“The Yellow Fly of the Dismal Swamp” and Other Vacation Pleasures

 

The Yellow Fly of the Dismal Swamp

The Yellow Fly of the Dismal Swamp
pursues me as I slide and stomp
around this bunker where I stay,
to write my book day after day.

The chachalaca bird soars in
to create its awful din
so I’m disturbed body and ear
by fauna choosing to come near

to take my thoughts from past adventures
to the jungle’s native censures,
telling folks who have invaded
that these environs shan’t be raided

by outsiders who have chosen
to do their writing and their dozin’
in a different place and clime
from where before they chose to rhyme.

Thus this silly verse that chose
to invade my earlier prose.
For in the week that we’ve resided
in this small house open-sided

we’ve been treated to a view
of jungle life that’s strange and new.
Birds that chuckle, flies that bite
all day long, then in the night.

As I sit, their home in view
bringing news of them to you!

I swear, these are real names of different birds and insects we’ve seen or been consumed by while sitting at the only place available in our tiny house, totally open to the jungle within the property walls. Only in our bedrooms can we lock ourselves away…usually with a “Yellow Fly of the Dismal Swamp” to keep us company, on wrist, ankle, leg or screen.

Below is a photo of my picture, which they added to the iNaturalist site after Xill sent it in for identification. I flipped it over in my photo above. It really was clinging to the bottom of the limb. (For once, not my limb!)

Below are photos of our small jungle house. As you can see, most of it not cut off from the jungle at all.The first photo is what I see from where I sit writing every day.

Click on photos to enlarge.My view from where I write.

The Numbers Game #102. Please Play Along! Dec 8, 2025

Welcome to “The Numbers Game #102”. Today’s number is 224 (posted by Forgottenman for Judy). To play along, go to your photos file folder and type that number into the search bar. Then post a selection of the photos you find that include that number and post a link to your blog in my Numbers Game blog of the day. If instead of numbers, you have changed the identifiers of all your photos into words, pick a word or words to use instead, and show us a variety of photos that contain that word in the titleThis prompt will repeat each Monday with a new number. If you want to play along, please put a link to your blog in comments below. Here are my contributions to the album.

**Click on  Photos to Enlarge and View as Gallery.**

Hoarding Pennies, For The Sunday Whirl Wordle (Wordless?) 734

The rain lies hidden in the clouds, ready to rinse from this day my guilt for all of those words I imagined I would finally foster––drawing them out from that thick thicket of memory where they have hung for fifty years, waiting to explode. Sorted  one-by-one into piles, each lies like a single undetonated bomb, barely ticking after all these years, ready for me to sink into them to stage that final act by which they will earn their freedom. I am a criminal of omission––that fake author of the lessons they might teach. Fearing their truth or perhaps their half-truths, I hoard them  now like worthless pennies in their stacks. Too late, too late I fear, to spend them.

Below is a photo of the manuscript I started 50 years ago, at its present stage. Behind are piled the research, letters, notes and timelines I have assembled to attempt to bring the manuscript up to the present. I have come to an isolated spot in Quintana Roo for a month to do so, but I fear the daunting deed might go undone! Laziness or an inability to face the truths and to deal with them again, after all these years? Three weeks to go. Time will tell.

For The Sunday Whirl Wordle 734, the  prompts are: rinse days still thicket bomb fake criminal imagine foster lies sky sink First two images done aided by AI, third photo my own.