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About lifelessons

My blog, which started out to be about overcoming grief, quickly grew into a blog about celebrating life. I post daily: poems, photographs, essays or stories. I've lived in countries all around the globe but have finally come to rest in Mexico, where I've lived since 2001. My books may be found on Amazon in Kindle and print format, my art in local Ajijic galleries. Hope to see you at my blog.

In Praise of the Party Mexicano!!!

I simply have to say a few words of praise about the ability of my Mexican friends and neighbors to party!  I’m accustomed to hearing the parties going on around me every weekend, sometimes until 6 a.m., but for the first time I had a party that wasn’t comprised entirely of older (my age) American and Canadian and Mexican guests, who usually depart politely by 9 or earlier if the party started earlier.

My party for those who helped with Campamento Estrella, however, consisted of an even number of “mature” gringos and young Mexican adults ready to PARTY!  After making two gallons of frozen margaritas, I for fun put two full bottles of tequila and shot glasses on each of the long tables I’d shoved together for the party to create one looooong table.  Perhaps someone would like a shot or to add a little strength to my somewhat weak margaritas.

At that time, I thought there would be 20 of us, but stomach flu and dengue fever and other illnesses depleted the number by half so we had LOTS to eat, luckily, which seemed to lessen the effect of two gallons of margaritas and the entire contents of the two bottles of tequila on the tables that disappeared during the 4 1/2 hours of the party.

Yes, we did shots.  Yes, when we lost the shot glasses, we ended up pouring the tequila into our mouths from 6 inches or so above our baby bird mouths, the crowd chanting “Judy, Judy, Judy, Judy!’ or whatever name was appropriate. Yes, we all wound up in the pool–at least Agustin, I and the “kids” did––still waterfalling tequila.  By then we’d gone through the good stuff and were down to the smokier reposado which is the scotch of tequila and not my thing.

Needless to say, even after sending food home with Yolanda and two of the Anglo guests who had to depart before the final course, (We’d had so many flautas and so much guacamole with before dinner drinks that everyone had to rest up a few hours before dinner.) I still have an entire huge pan of enchiladas, a quart of beans and an entire flan and salad left over so what’s a girl to do?  This afternoon I’m having three friends over for Mexican Train and enchiladas with all the trimmings.  One of the ladies asked if she should bring wine.  “No!”  (I still have ten bottles I bought for the party, passed over in lieu of tequila.)  Another asked could she bring any food.  “No!!”  I still have three dozen enchiladas, guacamole, salad, frijoles refritos, salsa and flan. No one gets into this house bringing more food or liquid refreshment. No one gets out until the food, at least, is all gone.

So here it is folks, my photo essay in PRAISE of the Mexican talent for PARTY.  Not so many photos as I was pretty busy making up more frozen margaritas and well, yeah–finding extra swimsuits for 7 people and dodging tequila shots.  And no, not a headache nor any hangover this morning.  I suggest Hornitos as a really good brand of tequila. The bottles went out with the morning trash, but here is a photo of the cap I saved for my scrapbook wall:

Here are a few shots of the enthusiastic guests.  No doubt they’ve already posted videos of the party on their Facebook pages, but I’m going to make do with these shots frozen in time:

(If you’d like to view them in a larger size and read captions, click on the first photo and arrows.)

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/praise/

In Praise of Photography

I love this poem by kStan(ly)’s blog.  Here are the first few lines:

Magnified Magnificence

you picture takers
photo kings
who share with us
who give us wings
who brave the world
to play with light
i’ve become
your acolyte

If you’d like to read the entire poem, go here:
https://kstanlyksays.wordpress.com/2016/08/03/magnified-magnificence/

Surprise Gift: Flower of the Day Aug 4, 2016

This little lady came up volunteer this year right where I can see her every time I leave my house by the kitchen door.  I love the surprise of seeing her for the second time this year. She is just two inches across at her widest part. If she’d been any place else but where she is, I would have overlooked her for sure.  Thanks, nature, for another surprise!
(It’s obvious the bees have been loving her as well.)

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What the World Craves

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What the World Craves

The world is full of cravings,
and once I craved it all:
success, beauty, intelligence
and kindness.
But can it all be had at once?
Ask the politician’s sister
or the starlet’s hairdresser.

I think the world craves fairness,
much as it is in its nature not to give it.
We are so taken with the world of movies
that we believe
even their most impossible
possibilities:
that the thin man
can love the fat girl,
that the beautiful woman
might choose the homely man.

Perhaps she craved the impartial eye—
that part of her who could love the man alone—
but how long did Julia Roberts
stay married to Lyle Lovett?

I tried it once, saying I was going to look for something
other than outward attractiveness,
and it wasn’t his short stature
or his balding head that ended it.
It was the other woman
and the wheeler-dealer ways—
his debts I assumed
that were never paid back.
In the end, the rest of him lacked as much
as the looks I overlooked.

I see the child throw his body
over the spoils fallen from the piñata,
snarling and threatening any child
who tries to claim even one.
I see the plain girl
sitting on the sidelines at the dance.
I see the children starving in dry countries
while the powerful sit plotting on their yachts.
Yet still, even now,
much as it is in its nature not to always give it,
I think the world craves fairness.

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/craving/

Teaching the Way: Cee’s Which Way Challenge, August 3, 2016

(Click on first photo and arrows to enlarge photos and read the story.)

This is a bit different take on the question, “Which way?”

https://ceenphotography.com/2016/08/03/cees-which-way-challenge-august-3-2016/

Amused

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      Amused

When she enters, I’m in her thrall,
and I have no control at all.
Sometimes she carries a riding crop
and drives me on so I can’t stop.
She rides in smoothly from my dreams
inspiring reams and reams and reams
that must be written when I wake.
I’m driven onward for her sake.

If my muse should feel abused,
believe me, she is not amused.
She mounts my back and spurs me on
until all her words are gone––
released upon the teeming pages
while she rides off to join the sages
sitting there upon the shelf,
and I am left with just myself.


About “photopainting”: the photo above was created using only  iPhoto tools from this original taken at my favorite crazy story (Galeria El Triunfo) in Guadalajara yesterday :

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Today’s prompt was Muse.

Pearly Whites: Cee’s Fun foto Challenge, Smiles 2016/08/02

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You’ve seen all these before, but not together.  I love how distinctive each person’s smile is and these are some of my favorites.

https://ceenphotography.com/2016/08/02/cees-fun-foto-challenge-smiles/

Blush Rose: Flower of the Day, Aug. 3, 2016

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I was going for a painterly effect on this rose–a detail from a bouquet.  Here is the original bouquet:

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The rose shown in the altered version is the one at the far right of this photo of the bouquet. Using iPhoto, I cropped, rotated the photo to get a horizontal positioning of the rose, augmented the color, sharpened, darkened, then used filters and some other adjustments.  “A little of each.”

https://ceenphotography.com/2016/08/02/flower-of-the-day-august-3-2016-dahlia/

Profound Courtship

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Profound Courtship

When my next lover comes around,
I’d prefer he be profound––
intellectual and mysterious,
also ponderous and serious.
Insight and depth I’m sure will be
the things that he looks for in me.
We’ll have no need for Cupid’s dart,
as passion steps aside for smart.

On our first night, we’ll pop a bottle,
arguing over Aristotle,
debating proton, neutron, quark
and entanglement in the dark.
I’ll reel off famous quotes by heart
from Shakespeare, Camus and Descartes––
whisper “sweet somethings” in his ear,
knowing what he’ll want to hear.

He’ll analyze our chemistry
and then discuss the Odyssey,
Plato, Aristotle, Kant––
any subject that I want.
If we don’t get around to kissing,
we’ll barely notice that it’s missing.
Who needs an interlude romantic
when they can have one that’s pedantic?

 

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/249091/

For the literal-minded among us, must add that I’m kidding! If it comes to a vote between Aristotle and the kissing, I’ll take the kiss every time. (Within reason.)

Hibiscus: Flower of the Day, August 2, 2016

I think judging from the pollen smeared over its face that the bees have been busy at this flower today.

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https://ceenphotography.com/2016/08/01/flower-of-the-day-august-2-2016-gladiolus/