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About lifelessons

My blog, which started out to be about overcoming grief, quickly grew into a blog about celebrating life. I post daily: poems, photographs, essays or stories. I've lived in countries all around the globe but have finally come to rest in Mexico, where I've lived since 2001. My books may be found on Amazon in Kindle and print format, my art in local Ajijic galleries. Hope to see you at my blog.

Murder, Migraine and La Manzanilla

Murder, Migraine and La Manzanilla

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Feet up at the Tequila Sunset Bar!

Murder, Migraine and La Manzanilla

When I was asked what my three most successful blog postings have been, I hadn’t the foggiest idea how to find out for sure. I knew it had something to do with the stats page, but I didn’t know how to go about finding out the total of views for each post over the years. I accepted the challenge, however, and found that the three topics that have created the most views over the two years plus that I’ve been blogging all start with the letter “M!”

First of all, as my title so clearly states, anything having to do with La Manzanilla, Mexico, where I spend two months of my year, garners immediate views. This is probably because most of my postings about La Manzanilla have been linked to their incredibly popular message board which has a loyal following. If you need something in La Manz from a ride to the airport three towns away to the loan of a charger for your camera to information about your computer, your house or your life—go to the La Manzanilla message board. And, for sure, if you took pictures all along the beach of different campfires and parties on New Years Eve and posted them on your blog, mention it on the La Manzanilla message board.

The third most views I garnered for any one post was a piece I wrote about the murder of two friends, and as the investigation into their murder continued, the international interest in my blog continued. I think the dearth of other information (since the murder occurred in Mexico whereas their families and lifelong friends were in Canada) contributed to people picking up on my blog from Google and Facebook. This is a sad way to earn views and of course that was far from the reason why I continued to write about this most tragic occurrence, but for some reason I wound up as a liaison between Mexican and Canadian friends of the couple, local police and higher up government officials and one local woman who relentlessly pursued the ones she knew were responsible. In the end, one of the men  was caught and sentenced, but I keep hoping that one day I’ll surpass the day’s total for views for one of the days I wrote about their deaths, as every time I see that number in my “top three,” I am reminded of the sad topic of that post.

Also high in the ratings over the past two years was a blog I wrote about migraine headaches. I remember my friend, proof-reader and fellow blog administrator Skyping me that I’d had hundreds of views from Great Britain in the last few minutes and upon investigation, I decided that this must have been due to a web crawler picking up on the work “migraine” and distributing the URL for my blog to its participants. I hope in writing this that I’m interpreting correctly how and why a web crawler works. I can only say that it is exciting to see the numbers mounting, but I don’t delude myself that it was anything but a fluke.

In summary, I guess what I’ve learned from surveying my stats is that what is most important in attracting views is to write about a timely topic you have personal knowledge of—especially if no one else is writing about it. Or, to choose a topic of particular and clearly-defined interest and to find some way to get news of your posting to the particular group that has an interest in it. This might be through your choice of tags, where else you establish a link to your blog or the luck of being picked up by some service that disseminates information to its subscribers.

Ironically, this is something I rarely do and which in all of these cases happened more or less by accident. I think if I were to make these concerns my main consideration in blogging that all of the fun would go out of it. I love the more hit-or-miss option of writing about the Daily Prompt and posting pictures on the daily or weekly prompts given by a handful of prompt sites. If you look at my blog, you will clearly see which ones they are and I furnish links to all of them at the bottom of my posts. It is wonderful to be widely-read but I’d rather have the freedom of writing about what I want to write about and in the style I want to write. In my case, I think the label of my blog could best be described as eclectic. That’s how I like my life and that’s how I like my writing and photos.

The starlings come back to La Manzanilla. (Perhaps they’ve been here all along, but a lack of a stunning sunset in the west last night brought our attention to the southeast, where a lot more was going on thanks to the clouds and the murmuration of thousands of starlings, which I took for bats until Daniel straightened out my thinking by saying they were birds. Meanwhile, he took a break from smoking his cigar to smoke his cigarette.  More about this in a later post!

(Click on first picture to see enlarged photos.)

 

A generous friend with time on his hands sent me links to my top eight most-viewed blog postings.  These are the links he sent:

#1  https://judydykstrabrown.com/2015/10/24/la-manzanilla-after-hurricane-patricia/
#2  https://judydykstrabrown.com/2015/01/01/sand-in-my-sangria-happy-new-year-2015/
#3  https://judydykstrabrown.com/2014/02/11/upon-the-violent-death-of-a-friend/
#4  https://judydykstrabrown.com/2015/10/25/two-more-videos-of-hurricane-patricia-in-la-manzanilla-mexico/
#5  https://judydykstrabrown.com/2014/02/13/nina-discombe-and-edward-kulars-deaths/
#6  https://judydykstrabrown.com/2015/11/29/internet-infraction-bogged-down-in-blog/
#7 https://judydykstrabrown.com/2015/08/13/dizzy-representative/
#8 https://judydykstrabrown.com/2015/03/19/post-migraine-depression/

 

The Prompt: Go to your stats page and find your three most successful posts.  What do they have in common? https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/the-stat-connection/

Gold Revisited

Gold Revisited

After I posted my “Gold” post, I imported pictures from both of my cameras and found more photos I’d like to submit for that prompt. Click on pictures to enlarge.

http://jennifernicholewells.com/2016/02/08/color-your-world-gold/

Gold

Gold

A lady I met at Daniel’s Sunset Beach Bar was sharing this bottle of Fireball Cinnamon Whiskey. It was actually quite good in small doses, but yes, it did burn! What I was captivated by, however, was the bottle and burned-edge labels.  First of all, the dragon on the front, but when I looked at the back of the bottle, I realized that what looked like a white label with a black dragon on the back was actually a cut out on the label.  That white area and black dragon were actually on the back of the front label and we were looking through the bottle to see it.  So cool.  The bottle was almost empty so I’m wondering how it looked when viewed through a full bottle.  Guess I could add water and food coloring and see. What a unique design.  Love it.

http://jennifernicholewells.com/2016/02/08/color-your-world-gold/

Condensed Love Story

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Condensed Love Story

New love blogs extreme attraction.
Experience posts a retraction.

The prompt is to write about love, but to keep it short!
https://lynnmlovewords.wordpress.com/2016/02/07/love-nudge-competition/

“Nomenculture”

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Illustration by Isidro Xilonzochitl for my book Sock Talk

“Nomenculture”

The names called across playgrounds in 1952
were “Lynn and Rita, Sharon, Karen, Sheila, Portia, Sue”.
But the kinds of names that mothers now choose for their daughters
are all names we never called out from our teeter-totters.

“Emma, Ava, Mia, Hannah, Isabella, Addison, 
Sophia and Olivia, Amelia and Madison,
Harper, Lily, Mia” are the sorts of names girls call
out to one another via texts or in the mall.

“Harper, Ella, Mia, Emily and Abigail”
are the names that girls today most commonly use to hail
each other on their smart phones via tweets or via text.
It’s hard to predict what may be the names that moms might next

choose to call their daughters.  Perhaps Venus, Saturn, Mars
will be the sort of names our daughters’ daughters call from cars.
Modern names for modern girls–– monikers so cool
that giving names like Betty, Pat or Judy would seem cruel.

Today, names must be Biblical or characters from Austen.
Or the names of cities from Madison to Boston.
“Judy” is a boring name, silly, old-fashioned, dull––
the sort of name that nowadays never makes the cull.

Those of my generation may seem rather out of date,
perhaps because of how we dress, our language or our weight.
Some women opt for face-lifts, saying wrinkles are to blame,
but I think it would be easier to simply change my name.


The Prompt: Say Your Name––Write about your first name: Are you named after someone or something? Are there any stories or associations attached to it? If you had the choice, would you rename yourself? https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/say-your-name/

Fuzzy Wuzzy Brown????

Fuzzy Wuzzy Brown????

I’m sorry, but the color sample for this Crayon color does not look remotely brown to me.  Nonetheless, I’m going to try to match it.


http://jennifernicholewells.com/2016/02/07/color-your-world-fuzzy-wuzzy-brown/

Heliconia–Flower of the Day Feb. 8, 2016

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This arrangement was done inside a coconut by a flower vendor who sets up in the street right across from the house I rent at the beach.  I bought one to take to the the hostess of a party but had to buy one for myself as well.  I added the tiny coconut “plug” to hide the watering hole.

For more flowers, see: http://ceenphotography.com/2016/02/07/flower-of-the-day-february-8-2016-deep-in-the-heart-of-a-tulip/

Short and to the Point

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Short and to the Point

Eat to live or live to eat?
Chewing’s a thing that can’t be beat!

Eschewing chewing can’t be done,
for masticating’s just too fun.

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/live-to-eat/

My Day So Far

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My day started with a visit from Ellie, who came to do her weekly cleaning.  While I made us coffee, she washed windows, and just as I sat down with my cup and my computer, she held up this little fellow.   He was so tiny.  Also, unfortunately, he was not alive.  I hope by natural causes and not by Ellie’s hand!

Next on my agenda was my Saturday writing group.  There was a huge group this time–23 by my count.  We’re planning a reading for next week.  Here are two shots of the group.

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Next was a party at a new friend’s house on the mountain directly above the bull ring where the rodeo will be held for the next three days.  I met Jan when she came to my house to see my work at the end of the day right after the art walk. She brought pictures of her own work which is fabulous.  She, too, uses found objects.  As you can see by these photos, both her home and her work is unique.  We are planning a materials-gathering expedition together.

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Color Your World Fuchsia and Cee’s Flower of the Day Challenge

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I had run down the street for two blocks in a long beach coverup quickly thrown over my nightgown when I heard the crazy rodeo parade approaching my house at 11 o’clock at night.  The night before it had gone on from about 7:30 to at least 2 a.m. when I went to bed.  I’d somehow missed it going by when I was dancing at Palapa Joe’s so I didn’t want to miss it tonight.  I was walking back home when I spied these little flowers and I kept bending lower to get them in more detail.  When I looked up I saw this BIG guy who must have been the cook in the palapa restaurant I was standing in front of, taking the picture.  He was sitting in a straight chair in the parking lot—probably out to catch a spare breeze as the night was still hot.  “You can see beauty in a single flower?” he asked me.  When I nodded my head and said, “Mmhmm,” he just smiled and nodded his head.  Such a nice little interchange and nice final human contact for the day.

More about my day will follow.

http://jennifernicholewells.com/2016/02/06/color-your-world-fuchsia/

http://ceenphotography.com/2016/02/06/flower-of-the-day-february-7-2016-dahlia/